Monthly Archives: May 2012

To Be a Cops Wife

I have some friends who are wives of a Police Officer. Anyone who knows anything about me knows of my limitless support of the Officers who protect us every day. But the wife of a cop also has a lot to deal with. So in honor of my friends who are LEO Wives….

Every morning I watch him put his vest on. Then he places his badge on his chest. He always checks his gun, and makes sure all is in order before he heads out the door for his tour of duty. I silently pray that he has the present of mind to shoot first if he needs too. Even though I know this action may end in his name being degraded in the news and by the public. No one considers his 2 children at home. They only think of the cracked-out delinquent whose family will claim it was an act of police brutality & excessive force. No one considers the 48 hour man hunt he may be on in 100 degree heat, while wearing a ballistics vest & 50 pound rig belt. The public will critize him, for not finding him sooner. No one knows that he watches his children sleep, thinking of the 18 month old he just preformed CPR on. Or the 5 year old that died in his arms, because his mother didn’t think he needed a car seat. We don’t shop in Walmart together. He knows he may see someone he arrested, and for fear of retaliation, he doesn’t want his family to be made. He brings his gun to church. Because even there, he scans the crowd, for someone who may pose a threat. How about that day, he walked into his sons 1st grade class, to rescue a little girl from returning home to a house filled with unspeakable abuse. He spends his paycheck at the thrift store, stocking up in stuffed animals to pass out to the neighborhood kids he encounters everyday. He spends holidays away from us, attends birthday parties in uniform. He leaves in the middle of the night, and can’t explain the call from his lieutenant. He greets a sobing family with terrible news, as he vows to find the perpetrator. He keeps his bible on the front seat. He knows he needs it. So before you critize him laughing at a crime scene, just remember he has to find a way to block it all out. He wears his badge with pride and honor. He serves the greater good, knowing you will never understand the sacrifices he has made. It’s police week! Honor our officers.
via- The Thin Blue Line Coast to Coast

I never dreamed it would be me

I never dreamed it would be me,
my name for all eternity, recorded
here at the hallowed place, alas,
my name, no more my face.

“In the line of duty” I hear them say,
my family now the price to pay,
my folded flag stained with their tears,
we only had those few short years.

The badge no longer on my chest,
I sleep now in eternal rest, my sword
I pass to those behind, and pray they
keep this thought in mind.

I never dreamed it would be me,
and with heavy heart and bended knee,
I ask for all here from the past;
Dear God, let my name be the last.

George Hahn, Los Angeles Police Department, Retired

My Time Between the Lines II – Brush with fame.

Today WDTN aired a news story about me. The back story is that one of the deputies in the Greene County Sheriff’s Office (I don’t want to reveal who it was in case they want to remain anonymous) forwarded my email to Megan O’Rourke. When she called me I was headed to the Miami County Law Enforcement Memorial. I was quite surprised that she wanted to interview me, but I said sure. When Megan and her camera man arrived Thursday Morning, I’m sure they could tell I was nervous. But the interview and filming went very well. They were great.

Now, I’ll be honest. I usually like attention. I attract attention even when I don’t mean to or want it. I will admit though, I was a little apprehensive about this. I mean, after all, I’m not the point of my mission. The way I see it is that God wanted to reach and encourage the First Responders, and I’m just the tool He uses to do it. I’m thankful for the opportunity, and it’s my desire that God uses this in some way. Use it to reach or help an officer or fire fighter out there. What I told Megan was that “Some people live their whole lives with no idea why they were put on the earth. I’m just blessed that I was able to find out and be doing it.”

At the Memorial on Friday I was given the opportunity to march into the ceremony with the officers and retirees. it was in that moment, that I felt, for lack of a better word, totally at home. I knew this was where I was supposed to be. I can’t explain that feeling to you. It’s just something you know, and once you do, life is never the same.

The ceremony was great, as were the speakers. Abbie Dulle was one of the guests, but the death of her husband, Sgt Brian Dulle, still to fresh for her asked Sheriff Sims to speak for her, and he did a wonderful job. He encouraged us not to forget the heroes that make the ultimate sacrifice, but to also remember their families.

Then came time for the reading of the names. Each officer from Montgomery County who had laid their lives down for out cities and county. Then, the bagpipes. To hear the mournful tune of Amazing Grace on bagpipes is moving. A tear or two comes to my eyes every time I hear it. Then as more bagpipes join and the music swells, you feel it with every part of your being. Again, I can’t explain it.

When people think about me, they will be able to say that these guys are part of me. They may not know where I stand politically, or who my favorite teams are, but they know that Mike is dedicated to cops and fire fighters. My pastor, Pat Murray, had always defined ministry as more than “pastoring a church”. When he explains ministry, it’s in terms of a city – this is his city. When he talks about “his city” you believe it. But until I started reaching out to First Responders and getting involved, I never knew what that felt like. But I do now.

Prayer Points For Police Week 2012

This is mostly taken from a note I did last year, but doing some modifications.

I’m asking all my friends to pray for our Police Officers this week more than any other. May 13-19 this year is Police Week. It was designated by President Kennedy in “recognition of the service given by the men and women who, night and day, stand guard in our midst to protect us through enforcement of our laws”. I’ve listed some “prayer targets” for each day. This is a work in progress, so as I find things or as other officers give me suggestions, I’ll update the list. Also, you will see some action “ideas”. The book of James tells us that “faith without works is dead.” SO do something. Get involved. Be kind.

Romans 13:1-4 tells us “Let every soul be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God. Therefore whoever resists the authority resists the ordinance of God, and those who resist will bring judgment on themselves. For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to evil. Do you want to be unafraid of the authority? Do what is good, and you will have praise from the same. For he is God’s minister to you for good. But if you do evil, be afraid; for he does not bear the sword in vain; for he is God’s minister, an avenger to execute wrath on him who practices evil.”

Sunday 13th – Safe trips to DC, local memorials

Monday 14th – Community support for officers
-Prayer targets:
— Officers would be honored in the communities they serve.
— Officers would not be hated for doing their job – upholding the law and correcting law-breakers.
— Officers love simple tokens of appreciation. By their lunch when one is in the drive-thru behind you.
— When you see businesses giving officer discounts, let the manager/owner know that you appreciate that.
— Get involved. Call/visit your local police department (during business hours) and ask them what you can do to help.
— Post blue lights in your windows to show your respect for officers.
— Join/start a neighborhood watch.
— Greet them when you see them in public.

Tuesday 15th – Officer Safety
-Prayer targets:
— That no department would have to choose something else over officer safety due to small budgets.
— Officers would have wisdom and safety in all situations.
— Pray Isaiah 54:17 -No weapon formed against them shall prosper, And every tongue which rises against them in judgment will be condemn.
— Have your house number in a location where it can be seen in the event they need to respond to you.
— Only use 911 in cases of emergency.
— If you are stopped pull over as far to the right as possible so that, when the officer comes up to your widow, he or she won’t have to worry about being clipped by vehicles in the right lane.
— Do NOT get out of your car unless the officer asks you to do so.
— If a police car is coming behind you with its siren blaring or emergency lights flashing, pull over to the right safely and quickly.
Wednesday 16th – Officer families
Note: Officers have a higher rate of divorce than the general public.
-Prayer targets:
— That the families might know peace when their loved ones are on duty.
— That the families have understanding when the officer they love is under stress.
— That officers would be able to seperate work and home, and that their families can support them in times of stress, and know that their stress is not directed to them.
— If you are fortunate enough to know a police officer, offer to babysit while they go out with their wives.
— If you know an officer and you can see he is having a rough time, just be available. They don’t have to tell you what’s going on, but they may need someone to talk to.
— If an officer tells you something in confidence, KEEP IT IN CONFIDENCE. Don’t tell the neighborhood that an officer is struggling in their marriage.
— Be good neighbors and human beings. How do you want people to treat YOUR family?

Thursday 17th – Officer Seclusion, isolation
-Prayer targets:
— That an officer will never feel isolated from his peers or superiors.
— That an officer will never feel like they are facing their struggles alone.
— Pray that God would send good and trustworthy friends into their lives.
— If you are fortunate enough to know a police officer, invite their family to your house for a cookout.
— When you see an officer, discretely and kindly ask if they would like you to pray for anything. And don’t be offended if you hear “No.”

Friday 18th – Mental stress, anxiety, suicides
Note: Most officers will shy away from talking about this. Officers are taught control from day one. If they are not in control, someone could die. When officers loose the ability to control their circumstances, self-doubt may set in. Officer suicides are two times higher than the general public.
-Prayer targets:
— That an officer will not struggle with self-doubt.
— That an officer will never feel like they are facing their struggles alone.
— Pray that departments would gave good stress detections and suicide prevention programs.
— Pray that officers would always see a way through the pain and struggles they face.
— Ability to relax off-duty – Officers are human beings and need to rest.
— If you are fortunate enough to know a police officer, invite their family to your house for a cookout.
— If an officer tells you something in confidence, KEEP IT IN CONFIDENCE. Don’t tell the neighborhood that an officer is struggling in his marriage.
— When you see an officer, discretely and kindly ask if they would like you to pray for anything. And don’t be offended if you hear “No.”

Saturday 19th- Departments and families of 2011 Line of Duty deaths
Note: There were 166 deaths in the “Line of Duty” in 2011. Over 100 departments across the United States will honor names added to “the wall” in DC.
-Prayer targets:
— That officers and families would experience healing from the pain of their loss.
— That departments would develop programs for support before they are needed.
— Pray that officers would not experience “survivor’s guilt” .
— Contact your local police department/Sheriff’s office to see if they have any memorial events. Attend them.
— If your local dept has memorial gardens, plaques, or stones, visit them. They died protecting you and your family.