Monthly Archives: March 2015

Darkest Hour

Anyone connected to the fire service will totally understand this article. And it’s not just for fire, it applies to law enforcement and EMS too. Give it a read and a follow!


L. Mauser-Ferguson

The Cincinnati Fire Department lost a good man on the job this morning named Daryl Gordon. I did not know him, but have gotten calls and messages this morning from several brothers who did. By all accounts, he was a magnificent man who will be so severely missed. I want to extend my deepest condolences to Cincinnati FD and everyone who loved Daryl Gordon: Myself and everyone I know are sending you a huge combination of prayers, uplifting thoughts, and hugs.

Today was already a dark day, marking the anniversary of the deaths of Boston’s Lieutenant Ed Walsh and Firefighter Michael Kennedy. I remember sitting at my kitchen table listening to the fireground channel last year during the search for both Walsh and Kennedy, yelling silently in my head for my Dad to save them. I found myself doing the same thing this morning listening to the…

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A supporter’s pledge for my Public Safety friends

In the last year, we have seen a lot of articles and social media hastags regarding Public Safety. We’ve seen videos like “I see You” designed to show us that citizens do notice and care about the efforts and sacrifices made by our officers. We’ve seen things like the LEO Bill of Rights, Why We Can’t Stop Talking, and You Are Not Alone, all telling us that LEO’s have rights, why we always talk about our heroes, and what we say to each other. When Officer Perry Renn was killed in Indianapolis, we saw the “I will Always Get Out of My Car” campaign. When everyone wanted to say that any lives were more important than Public Safety, we saw tags like #PoliceLivesMatter, #BlueLivesMatter, #LESM and recently #WarOnPolice spring up because in our hearts we know that Blue lives do matter. We don’t say that to exclude others, nor do we want to put ourselves on some sort of pedestal. We say it because we will not allow people to reduce our lives to second class because of the uniforms we wear. (Rest assured, if our fire and EMS brothers are under attack, we will jump in with #FireLivesMatter or #MedicLivesMatter if we need to, we honor and respect them too!!!!)

So as a supporter of Law Enforcement, Fire fighters, and EMT’s, here are some of the promises I make to my Public Safety friends. As a Chaplain, these are the promises I make to my departments.

1. I will ALWAYS come for you.
What I mean by this is this: When you need me, I will be there. If you get in a shooting and need someone to talk to, I will come for you. If you find yourself at the hospital, all I need is to hear about it, and I will come for you. You need someone to ride with you? Block traffic with you? Treat mass victims with you? Feel alone? Get divorced? Need a friend? I will ALWAYS come for you.
2. I will always be prepared.
Beyond the regular education that ministers have completed, I’ve completed other trainings like Active Shooter, First Aid, CPR, and trauma treatment.
3. I will have life saving materials with me.
For those who have had me ride with you, you know that I always have a bag with me. In it you will find regular first aid items, and trauma items too. I have items ranging from band aids and ibuprofen to Israeli Bandages and QuikClot. I might not be able to do brain surgery, but I sure am going to be able to keep you alive if the worst comes for you. If the worst does come for you I will help you kick it in the rear end. If it comes for you and I’m next to you, we will BOTH make it out.
4. I will always support you. I might not be able to make it the best place to be a cop, Firefighter or EMT, but I’m sure as heck going to try. If you make a mistake and have consequences, you will still be supported. If you need help at 3 AM because you are at the end of your rope, I will do what I can to help.
5. I will always speak up. I will not be silent, and any of you who are my Facebook friends know that. I won’t back down.  It doesn’t matter if it’s fashionable or not . It doesn’t matter what someone else does or says.
6. I will not be offended. I had to put this one because sometimes officers are afraid of saying something in front of the Chaplain. You can tell me anything. Seriously. I’m not offended by language, and although I don’t use it, you will not be shamed or thought any less of if you do. I don’t need shielded from reality or from your thoughts. If you’ve had a bad day and need to yell, I can listen.
7. I will go anywhere needed. When I come out for a visit, you don’t have to keep me in the business district or on the nice side of town. If I’m riding with you, I’ll go with you whenever possible, and when you say “Stay in the car”, that’s what I’ll do…just answer your radio checks! Bad side of town after dark? Scene of a suicide or bad car accident? I’ll go anywhere needed.

I encourage all my “supporter” friends to share this. If you think of other things, pass them along. I also encourage all my Chaplain friends and LEO spouses (and anyone else who regularly rides/visits with officers) , have a bag with you. Get first aid training. Have trauma supplies. Always be ready for the worst. Know their cues. Col Dave Grossman says “If you wake up everyday like it’s 9/11, when 9/11 comes you’ll be ready.”

To My Friends Outside My Police Family: This is Why We Can’t Stop Talking About It.

For those of you who know me, know that this is a cause close to my heart. I started sending emails to departments and now over 725 departments hear from me. These people are special to me and I will always fight for them. And they have rewarded me by accepting me into their family. They have done far more for me than maybe I could ever do for them, yet I will keep trying because, for me, Blue Lives Matter as well as Gold (Dispatch) , Red (Fire) and white (EMS). So if you sre my friend and I have invited you into my life, before you share that negative story or make those cruel comments, just think about me and not participate in the hate of my extended families.

Humanizing The Badge

You may be my friend in real life.  You might just be someone who knew me when I was a child.  Maybe we grew up together and we follow each others life through social media. You see pictures of my child and I get to watch as you navigate your way through life.  You see my status messages that talk about how my family and I just took our 3 year old to the park or that my husband was just promoted at work.  Maybe you witness a birth announcement or the death of a family member as you look upon my life via a social media platform.  Either way, I have, for some reason or another, chosen to allow you to be a part of it.

You know I’m a police wife or a police husband.  Maybe I’m even an officer and we’re friends outside of my job.  You…

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Open Letter to a Rookie’s Spouse: Fear Not. You aren’t Alone.

This is a post from a group supporting spouses of officers. There is some really great points here.

Humanizing The Badge

Your significant other has always wanted to be an officer. They have that “first man in, last man out” mentality. They were born to do something heroic and brave. They have a heart that is so desperate to change the world that their career path is far more than just a job; it’s a calling.  When they sat down to tell you that they were considering the police academy, your heart either soared with pride or sank with fear.  For some people, it was both.

I didn’t know my husband when he decided to go into police work.  He had already been employed by our local police department for several years before he swept me off my feet. When I began dating him, I really didn’t know what to expect. I was new to this world of extra precautions, unforeseen reasons for plans to be broken, and the stress that…

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